HOW YOUR TASTE IN MEN CAN AFFECT DATING/RELATIONSHIP SUCCESS
Ladies, what’s your type? Six feet tall, a slim, lithe physique and face like that of a GQ model? Or the nerdy, bespectacled guy in the tech department in perpetually rumpled clothes whose idea of a six pack is a carton of beer?
The quintessential Mr Average guy?
It’s an indisputable fact that we live in an increasingly image conscious world. The way we look, dress and present ourselves go a long way in determining our success in certain key areas of life including love, relationships and dating.
In the vast dating pool, a good looking male will have an unfair advantage over his average looking counterpart. He will attract more attention and compliments and will have more choices in picking and going on dates.
This is a major ego booster any day, giving him the belief that he is special, that so many women want him, thus making him more picky in his choice of who to date or have a relationship with.
He has a larger pool of females to choose from to date or to dump at will. Any wonder that a lot of handsome guys have a player, a heart-breaker reputation? It’s in the looks. And evolution too as various studies have shown women find tall, handsome men more attractive than shorter men. It’s an innate need for the smaller, feminine female for protection by a bigger male, scientists who have studied this issue point out.
Remember your school days when the handsome guys were often the most popular with lots of girls always hanging around them?
So, where does all this leave Mr Average who got the short end of the genetic lottery? Never mind that he might be more caring, loving, thoughtful, intelligent and a better mate material than Mr Hunk.
He’s often unnoticed, ignored and passed over and when it comes to dating and relationships, he often has fewer choices. The exception to this is if he’s extremely rich, talented or a movie or music star.
Uloma is a 34 year old career lady working in the financial sector. To her, any man that’s not tall and slim and handsome does not get a second look from her.
“I like them a certain way- tall, slim and sexy. That’s what turns me on in a guy,” she often told her friends.
In the past, she had met and dated a few of such types but sadly such relationships came to nothing.
Now she just wants someone who is ‘decent, kind and loves me with all my craziness!’ as she puts it.
To relationship experts, there should be more than good looks or physical attraction when looking out for love, a partner or date. Attributes such as kindness, being considerate, intelligence, good personality and sense of humour, a work ethic, great values should be a better deciding factor when looking for a mate than a ripped, chiselled body with a six pack.
So have you always been attracted or dated men based on their physical attributes? Perhaps, that explains why you are still single and searching for the Mr Perfect Looks who ticks all the right boxes in the looks department. The Mr Gorgeous with model like looks who will come and sweep you away into the sunset.
Girl, it’s time to come down to Mother earth and face reality. That ‘perfect’ looks does not equate a perfect relationship. OK, if you are lucky to snag a handsome hunk with good qualities other than his looks, good for you.
But it’s self defeating limiting yourself to that type of male for a partner/relationship.
It’s time for a rethink, to date beyond the ‘box’ as going for good looks alone will exclude lots of men who might be short, average looking but with good qualities suitable for an enduring, loving relationship.
It might sound cliché but don’t judge a book by its cover. For lurking behind that not-so-attractive ‘book cover’ (male) might be a ‘gem’ that you will find amazing. And one that’s so precious, you might want to have him for keeps!
